Updated: Oct 29, 2020
There are so many emotions and thoughts that come to mind when I think about the gift of being a mom.
While my kids are much older (now 13 & 11), that special bond and connection may look different than when they were younger, but it is still very much present and growing.
I am grateful for that gift every single day.
I will be honest, I don't necessarily miss the fact that my daughter was colic for almost 6 months (yes you read that correct) all those sleepless nights, diaper changes and the ever so challenging game of reading their minds on what they were trying to communicate (hungry, tired, gassy, attention, etc..) There are many things that I do miss, such as the smell of their hair, the wonder in their eyes, their small hands holding on to me, their excitement of discovery and simply holing them while they slept and listening to them just breathe.
Growing up, my own mother would often say to my siblings and me whenever there was a special moment, milestone or difficult situation, "you don't know what it means to be a mother till your a mother yourself." While I understood what she said, I did not 100% appreciate that what the statement actually meant until the day I became a mother myself.
Being a mom goes well beyond what you can describe in words to someone or write on paper.
It's more than having to:
Be responsible for another person.
Having to feed them, clothe them and maintain a roof over their heads.
Helping them with their homework or
Helping them problem solve those "end of the world" situations
It's putting your child's needs before your own.
It's dropping everything that you are doing to help them through a meltdown, or attending to them if they got hurt.
It's being consistent with your expectations and boundaries when all you want to do is throw in the towel...but know that if you do, you will regret it, and you know that the short term "pain" will provide you with all a lot of gain.
It's teaching them how to be kind.
It's teaching them about responsibilities.
It's believing in them when they don't believe in themselves.
It's teaching them what natural consequences are because you don't want to set them up for failure because the world is not fair and because you will not always get what you want when you want it.
It's teaching them how to manage their big emotions.
It's teaching them how to love and be true to themselves.
It's juggling their after school activities while still getting laundry, groceries and meals taken care of.
With all the jobs and responsibilities I have had to date in my life. Being a mom is still my favourite "job."
It's the "job" that continuously changes it's "job description."
Its the one that keeps me on my toes.
It's the one that pays me back in a currency that is worth so much more than money.
It provides me with incredible moments that I will cherish as I get old.
And the ones that continues to build my strength and character.
I will never grow tired of those amazing hugs, or the way my heart feels when I see how they get all excited and proud of their accomplishments.
From one mother to another,
Happy Mother's Day!
Sylvia Corzato is a parent consultant & behaviour coach, and owner of Success in Steps. With over 20 years of experience supporting children and their families, Sylvia provides parents with tailored support and strategies to help them understand the 'why' behind the behaviours along with 'what' is maintaining them.
Her mission is to enable parents to be the driving force behind reaching and maintaining their family goals.